Nearly half of Americans say that dating is more difficult than it was ten years ago. Some of the main reasons for this include increased risk, technology, and dating has become more impersonal. While dating has always presented challenges, dating, love and relationships seem even more complicated. Dating is very difficult for many because of the loss of a sense of control.
It may seem like a massive mind game, and you may even start to wonder if your mind is deceiving you. Was that date really as good as you remember it right now or are you just yearning for a connection? After too many failed relationships, it can be easy to want to throw in the towel and never go out again. This fear, anxiety, and sense of worthlessness are imprinted in your brain and affect ALL your future interactions, including the way you go out now. For example, maybe you're going crazy because you haven't seen your partner for a few days, but you look at your record and see that it's actually normal for you to see her once a week.
Many people go to a date thinking or hoping that this will be their last date or that this is the person they are going to marry. I want you to know that it's normal to feel nervous about going on a date with someone you've never met before, whether you're a woman who goes out a lot or haven't done it in years. Pew found that 65% of women currently single and actively looking for a date say they have experienced at least one form of harassment from someone they went on a date with or were dating. Each person has a page where they write down what they did, if there was any physical contact, if the next appointment was scheduled, who started it.
So if you find yourself on dates looking for what's going on with someone or having a million deal breakers, including that you whistle too loudly, you snorted once when you laugh and your hands are too small, you're probably going to have a hard time.